Obama and gay marriage: In US religion, the Golden Rule rules
As pundits and politicians struggle to divine the political fallout from US President Barack Obama’s sudden endorsement of same-sex marriage, one thing has become clear: The Golden Rule invoked by Obama to explain his change of heart is the closest thing Americans have to a common religious law, and that has important implications beyond the battle for gay rights.
In fact, one of the most striking aspects of Obama’s revelation on May 9 that he and his wife, Michelle, support marriage rights for gays and lesbians, is that he invoked their Christian faith to support his views. In past years, Obama — as many believers still do — had cited his religious beliefs to oppose gay marriage, Religion News Service reports.
Obama told the ABC television network that he and the first lady “are both practicing Christians and obviously this position may be considered to put us at odds with the views of others but, you know, when we think about our faith, the thing at root that we think about is, not only Christ sacrificing himself on our behalf, but it’s also the Golden Rule, you know, treat others the way you would want to be treated.”
Obama has frequently mentioned the Golden Rule or that general idea when speaking about how his faith shapes his policies, and he can point to chapter and verse to back up his views.
Jesus twice invoked the Golden Rule in the Gospels, in a phrase that is often rendered “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” And Jesus is cited three times boiling down all of God’s law to what is known as the Great Commandment, a dual injunction to “love the Lord thy God with all thy heart” and to “love thy neighbour as thyself”.
In those passages, Jesus is actually citing the Hebrew Scriptures — specifically Leviticus 19:18, when God tells Moses to “Love your neighbour as yourself” — and scholars of religion say some version of the Golden Rule can be found in almost every religious tradition.
That universality is especially useful in modern-day America, as the religious landscape has not only become increasingly diverse, but as people of different faiths are increasingly living and working together, and marrying each other and raising children.
“Given today’s religiously diverse context, this way of thinking about religion and spirituality provides a handy bridge across religious differences,” said Nancy Ammerman, a sociologist of religion at Boston University.
Ammerman said she first became aware of the centrality of the Golden Rule precept as she studied American congregations in the 1990s, and more extensive surveys since then have underscored the premium that US believers put on this live-and-let-live tenet as opposed to any specific sectarian doctrine.
“Consistently, roughly half say that it’s how you live your life every day and how you treat others,” said Ammerman, whose book on these and other findings, “Sacred Stories: Religion and Spirituality in Everyday Life,” will be published next year. “About 40 per cent place the emphasis on more evangelical practices like reading the Bible and witnessing to others. And about 10 per cent say that it’s about working for justice.”
That phenomenon was also a central finding in a sweeping study of U.S. religion, “American Grace: How Religion Divides and Unites Us,” published in 2010. In that book, authors Robert D. Putnam and David E. Campbell elaborated the so-called “Aunt Susan Principle” — the “Aunt Susan” in all our lives, “the sort of person who epitomises what it means to be a saint, but whose religious background is different from our own.”
Increasingly, just as we find it impossible to consign Aunt Susan to eternal damnation because of her differing beliefs, so too American believers — including the Obamas — struggle to deny equal rights to gays and lesbians who try to live upright lives, which would include a monogamous marriage.
In everyday life, this means that believers can invoke the Golden Rule in order to respect others, like gays and lesbians, while maintaining their particular religious views, which may or may not endorse homosexual relationships.
While this tendency toward toleration may not translate immediately into legislative or judicial victories for gay rights — witness the ban on gay marriage that North Carolina voters approved this week — the shift to social acceptance is broad and swift and, as even many religious conservatives concede, probably inexorable.
The Golden Rule template is also one that experts say will likely one day pave the way for greater acceptance of marginalised groups like Muslims, just as it did in past generations for Catholics and Jews. Mormons like presidential candidate Mitt Romney already seem to be benefiting, as their visibility grows and more Americans see them as living upstanding lives.
Whether Obama will benefit from his invocation of the Golden Rule remains a point of intense political speculation. That’s no surprise, given that the nation remains divided on gay rights, and culture war issues can often be used as stand-ins for airing other grievances.
But the White House seemed to recognise the power of the Golden Rule as it scrambled to stage-manage the potential public relations crisis. As the president’s interview was being aired, the White House sent Democrats a list of talking points that featured this exhortation: “In the end, the values that the president cares most deeply about is how we treat other people.”
The memorandum was supposed to be confidential, but Obama’s aides could have simply opened up the Bible, or asked most any American believer, and found the same advice.
By David Gibson, ENInews/RNS